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Valentines Day Ideas For Your Special Someone

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Is it more important to love or to be loved?

For me, I like not only to be loved, but also to be told I am loved. Valentine’s Day is the occasion where you can experience both. Here are some creative ways to tell your special someone “I love you.”

1. On small pieces of paper, write down every kind of kiss that you can think of (examples: passionate, on the cheek, etc.). Then fill an inexpensive red bag with your “kisses” and give it to him/her. Ask him/her to pull several pieces of paper from the felt bag, and then give your sweetheart whatever kind of kiss is described. This is recommended for couples and not for first time confession.

2. Make a book about why you love and why you are thankful for him/her. For me, I personally prefer to use a deck of cards (a normal deck which contains 52 cards excluding Jokers), tie the cards together with strings and make it look like a book with 52 pages. For every page, write one reason you love him/her. For the title of the book, I’ll name it “52 Reasons Why I Love You”. Totally recommended for everyone.

3. Invite your special someone over to your place and cook a dinner for him/her. After enjoying a candlelight dinner, watch a romantic movie together and then who knows what will happen ~

4. One of the best ideas: give your wife/girlfriend a dozen roses. On each stem attach a note for a future date. In each note, write something that she would love to do. (For example, “Go to the beach.”)

5. For married couples, if possible, go on a date with your spouse to a restaurant that you enjoyed when you two first met. After you order your meal, take some time to write down favorite memories from the past year. Then share your lists.

6. Have 11 roses delivered to your wife/girlfriend, and then give her a 12th yourself. Tell her that you will love her till the last rose dies. PS: the 12th rose is made of plastic.

7. If you are separated across the miles, send a package filled with things like a box of chocolate or anything that she likes. If you’re ready to propose, send her a ring.

8. Make a meal with symbols of love. For example, make a tart in the shape of a heart.

9. Fill a jar with Valentine candy and notes for your spouse. Notes could also express your love and respect: “I am so glad that God blessed my life with such a great husband/wife like you.” Roll each note and tie it with a ribbon.

10. Write a poem for your spouse, frame it and wrap it with a nice wrapper.

11. For wives, surprise your husband when he comes home from work on 14th February. Leave a trail of red foil-wrapped Hershey kisses to your bedroom.

12. Make a special “14 Reasons I Love You” Valentine’s Day breakfast for your sweetheart. On his/her plate, leave a letter or card listing 14 reasons that you love your spouse.

There are many more creative ways to express your love but most importantly, have fun on 14th February, and remember: Love is not meant to be given and received just on Valentine’s Day. Instead, it’s to be practiced every single day of the entire year. Follow @sndHERsomething on Twitter or visit http://www.sendhersomething.com for the best gifts ideas!!!

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What Most Men Look For in a Woman

Opposing to what you might think, most guys aren’t eyeing for a supermodel. They’re just looking for their perfect match: a woman who’s sweet and sensitive to his needs.

Here are eye-catching traits that every man has in mind when deciding if the woman (if you’re a girl, then assume it’s you) sitting across the dinner table at that first date is girlfriend material.

1. Good Listener

Just like I’ve said before in my previous blog about what most women want, most men appreciate women who are able to just listen. No lectures, tips or comments concerning what you would do if you were in his place. You know… just sitting there quietly, listening (and I mean REALLY listening only) and showing that you care. And of course, that involves being really patient as well.

Some men want to be caretakers but even the strongest of men want a soft place to fall. Try to understand that most men need to “digest” their problems before they can talk about them. Learn to say this “Okay, baby, whenever you want to talk about anything, I’m here for you.” The ability to listen and really “feel” what’s being said is one of the things men like in women because it’s so supportive.

2. Spontaneous

Being able to “go with the flow” is one of the traits men like in women the most. For example, most of the men would never want to sing in front of girls (professional singers excluded) but they just love to hear the girls sing (even if it sounds more like howling). Guys will gladly throw a surprise for the girl they like if they know the reaction will be positive and they love to see their special one being themselves (even if it involves a certain dose of silliness).

3. A Good Cook

Some people used to say that the only way to get to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Well, it’s certainly true and we have learned by now that’s not the only way, although it certainly is one of the ways.

Men love women who can cook and women who would be willing to learn to cook for them. Men will appreciate it till the day they die (like seriously!). It’s a cliche, I know, but even experts agree on this one. So what do you think?

4. Playful

Guys like a girl who laugh at their jokes, but isn’t mindless and isn’t always serious about everything (and I don’t mean being over playful in certain situations). A sense of humor is one of the things men like in women, especially in women they are planning to settle down with.

Just as I mentioned before that men like a woman who can forgo nagging him about a particular problem, they like a woman who can also joke about THAT particular problem. This sweet like thing keeps the spark in your relationship. And hey, isn’t laughter the best medicine?

5. Caring

Man really wants to know that their woman care for him but be careful, because repeating “I love you” until he can’t take it anymore isn’t a good way to let him know how you feel. An average man will tell you that he loves you once and show you how much he loves you five times.

Girls, you should do the same. Take extra care of him when he’s sick or tired, surprise him every once in a while, listen to his problems… Basically show him everything you want to tell him because this quality is one of the very important things men like in women.

The list actually goes on and on but these are actually one of the few things what most men look for in a woman. Do follow Send Her Something @sndHERsomething on Twitter and visit the main website http://www.sendhersomething.com/ if you want suggestions of a perfect gift for her.

What Most Women Look For in a Man

You think you are ready for it. You think you have what it takes to get the girl.

But you’re still not getting the girl you want; you start to wonder what you’re doing wrong and why you’re not as lucky as other guys.

There are a few things about a girl that attracts you and similarly girls too have their own wish list in a guy. Here are a few things that can help you attract her and gain her attention.

1. Grooming

This is always the most important factor because you never know when you’d bump into the dream girl. So dress well and look good anytime, anywhere. Remember to groom yourself with quality man products and smell good all the time. Girls love guys with attractive outfits!

2. Personality

Every guy has their own personality, but not every guy has a charming personality. It’s a hard task to charm a girl but it’s not impossible! Try to enhance your body language and also improve on your sense of humor (not lame jokes). We will talk more on sense of humor next.

3. Sense Of Humor

The girl knows immediately whether the guy has a good sense of humor during a conversation with him. And this is essential to impress any girl!

Having good sense of humor can bring a lot of fun over dates, texts or phone calls. Girls dig those so remember to be a joker!

4. Confidence

I always highlight this important factor because confidence is sexy. Confidence is a great trait as it’s an inner strength envied by everyone you meet.

A confident man is attractive because he believes in himself and his abilities. This is what girls look for because they want to feel protected.

5. Good Looks

The first thing that attracts the opposite sex. Just like what guys find in girls, girls would prefer a guy with good, clean looks. Like I said before, dress well (dress smart) and maintain a good posture. Good posture means having great confidence. Have a happy and cheerful face and always put a smile on that face as quoted by Heath Ledger from The Dark Knight.

6. Respectful

Women love to be respected at all times. All women like a well mannered man who doesn’t treat her and others badly. Treat others around you kindly too.

Don’t be rude to anyone around you unless you have a reason to. Treat everyone with respect and you’ll be respected in return.

There are many more factors that can help you attract the girl effortlessly. Follow these tips first and stay tuned for more!! Thank you!!

Going Out For Your First Date

You’ve set your sight on the girl you want. You’d love to bring her out on a date but you’re afraid of approaching her. Every guy faces the same problem so I’m gonna break down on how to approach her and where to bring your girl on your first date.

The Approach

Women are attracted to men who are confident in their own skin. Don’t try to be funny and forget about impressing her! This will only make her think you’re trying too hard.

Before approaching her, take a deep breath and tell yourself, “it’s just a small matter.” So walk up to her confidently and say “Hi”. You can find something about her to compliment (avoid over complimenting).

If you can’t find the courage to do so, approach her at the speed of light. Run up to her without breaking a sweat and say something like “Hey! I know this is quite random, but I just want to say that you caught attention for quite some time. I’m actually running late for a class/work/meeting (whatever you think is urgent), but I’d love to get your phone number so that we can hang out sometime. Is that okay?”. 90% of the time she will gladly say yes.

Before The Big Night

Only follow these steps if she said yes (I assume she did). Let’s get ready for your first date with her then!! Before the Big Night arrives, ask her about things like her favourite movies, hobbies and interests.

Most importantly, ask these in a smart way. Start a casual conversation and randomly ask her like “I bought this DVD (movie title) the other day and I loved the plot! It was such a great movie! What do you think?”. Use the informations collected and surprise her with a perfect date that fits her interests.

The Date

Guys, please keep your eyes on her eyes and not on her boobs. Resist the urge and show her what a classy guy you are. Then, you’ll have more opportunities to check those out later…

And also listen to her! Make sure you show interest in everything she tells you about. Smile, nod and be ready with follow-up questions to show her how thoughtful you are. First impressions are the key to everything so don’t ever blow it!

If both of you are ready to woohoo in bed together after the first date, go on then. When it comes to sex, different girls have different comfort zones. I can’t really give any suggestions on that matter. But always remember, don’t push it if she’s not ready. Be patient because everything is better when you have to wait for it.

After Night Out

Do not hesitate to call or text her after a date. If she likes you, she would love to hear from you soon. Remember that there is no such thing as “the best time” to text or call her.

The only thing is avoid being clingy. Girls love guys with confidence so keep calm and cool.

These are the basic steps on what you should do before, during and after a date. Please do leave comments and stay tuned for my next post! Thank you!

Asking A Girl Out And Flirting Successfully

Asking a girl out is not as easy as it seems. I used to be shy whenever I try to speak to girls especially to the girl that I like. I’m sure many guys out there are facing or have faced the same problem as I do. The common problem we’re all facing here is: lack of confidence.

I’ve overcame this problem and I’m going to give your confidence some helpful guidance in the right direction. The followings are rules on how to ask a girl out and how to flirt successfully (almost) every time.

The Outfit

I’m not asking you to specially order a freshly tailored suit when you ask a girl out. Dress in whichever style that fits your personality, but keep it classy so that you won’t look like a slob.

Avoid messy tees, slippers, dirty shoes and every other fashion disasters. All I’m saying is dress like the handsome prince she’s been waiting for.

The Posture

Let’s assume you are wearing clean and classy clothes now but that’s not enough to impress the girl. Most men guarantee a rejection before they could even open their mouth because their appearance (body posture) does not express confidence.

Do Not:
– Cross your arms or legs
– Stare at the ground (at all times)
– Lean on the wall or on a certain object
– Hunch your back
– Move restlessly (especially during conversation)

Do:
– Gaze forward and look into her eyes
– Keep your chest high
– Keep your chin up
– Stand tall
– Shoulders down

Avoid Confusion

Do not over think too much especially when a girl smiles at you during conversations. That does not mean she wants to take the friendship to the next level so don’t get your hopes high.

The common question that is always stuck in the guy’s brain: not sure if she likes me or not. Well… ask her out right away!

If she says, “Are you asking me out on a date?” Reply “Yes!!” without hesitation. Girls love guys with confidence so be the type of guy she expects you to be! Even if she rejects you, at least you know how she feels about you.

Eye Contact

You are sitting in a café while enjoying a cup of coffee. When you look up, a smoking hot cutie catches your attention. Engage a few harmless glances in her direction. Turn your attention elsewhere after every five seconds of checking her out unless you want to be called a creeper.

By this time she would have noticed someone’s watching her. Try to look at her with a cool emotion (better with a James Bond’s smile). If she returns your gaze with a smile, it is a good sign as the feeling is mutual. If she ignores, stop being desperate and move on.

Follow these steps on asking a girl out. If successful, the next step is on how to approach the girl without looking stupid. I will talk more about it in my next post. Do leave comments and thank you!!

Rushing Into a Relationship

Before you make up your mind and tell the girl “will you be my girlfriend?”, ask yourself this: are you ready for it? Or are you rushing into the relationship?

Most guys (or even girls) tend to rush into the part where they confess to the ones they love and the ones they thought were their everything. They had to confess right away as they can no longer hide their feelings anymore. That’s what they thought…

The truth is…….. do not rush into a relationship. I repeat: DO NOT RUSH INTO A RELATIONSHIP!! If you find yourself rushing into a relationship, you have to stop right away!!

You might say that I’m stupid for telling you this but whether you agree or not, I’m gonna tell you WHY you shouldn’t rush things…

I. Broken Hearts

This is very common nowadays and it’s all because of your selfish and stupid decision. You want the girl (or guy) so badly that you want to have her in your arms all the time. You want to spend the rest of your life with her doing absolutely nothing other than loving each other. Let me break your silly dream now by telling you that this is just a fairy tale that does not exist AT ALL

When you rush into something, either you or her or both of you will end up having a broken heart. Why will there be broken hearts? That leads to the next issue…

2. Do Not Know Each Other Well Enough

Most couples will think that the only thing that matters in a relationship is being happy. That can only last for a very short period (maximum 2 months) if you do not know that person well enough.

Let’s picture this: you just met this sweet girl and you fell in love with her. You took the courage to say hi to her and started to chat with her every night. A month later, you confessed to her and surprisingly she accepted. As time goes on, she starts complaining about your lifestyle (eg: hitting the bar every week) and you’re getting annoyed about how close she is with other guys. Problems arise and arguments happen all the time. The worse thing is…both of you are so done with it and that’s the end of the relationship. Why? Because you moved in too fast.

My advice: It’s better to know the person more before you make the final decision.

3. Regret

Just like the scenario above, you might eventually regret for getting into a relationship with the person who you thought was the perfect one. Some people says that everything is destined and your special someone will come one day so there’s no point in looking around. My opinion: f**k the fate. I never believe in anything about fate. You have to work hard to get something you want. That applies to relationships. Try to live your life and do whatever you think is worth doing. Only then you will have no regrets in your life.

My point is don’t make decisions that you may regret in the future. Nothing is destined and everything is in your hand. Do not end up being with someone you regret being with.

4. May Lose Her…Forever

First of all, when you rush into confession, you may end up scaring the girl (or guy) off. You have to take things slow and at her pace. She may not be as ready as you are. Hell, you yourself aren’t so ready either! So why would you want to risk losing her forever?

Let’s assume you told her this: “Hey I’ve been waiting for such a long time to tell you this, I love you and I really want you to be my girlfriend.” If she treats you just like a normal friend (at most a close friend), she could be panicking on how to reject you without breaking your heart. No matter what she says, she’s gonna reject you anyway. That leads to her staying away from you, fearing that an awkward moment might arise when you two meet. Guess what? You have just eliminated a person out of your life…forever… She ain’t gonna come back anymore. So guys, be smart.

So these are the reasons why I think rushing into a relationship is not a good idea. Trust me because I’ve been through all these. I’m spreading this to all the guys and girls out there. Think before you do something that could change your whole life.

Stay tuned for more posts on love advices. Do leave comments on what you think and what you want to see in my next post. Thank you!!

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